The need to be something you aren’t.

Sneha (Snee) Mishra.
4 min readSep 6, 2022

It’s not rare for me to keep questioning myself, and the way I work.

I recently started taking care of every word I wrote, and of course, told myself that this is a good thing.

It was maybe getting too hard on myself; I was thinking too much and somewhere in pondering a hell lot; I started slacking.

From the work, from personal branding and from every aspect of writing.

Trying to polish what I was doing to an extent that I stopped hearing my voice in everything I wrote.

It sounded really fake.

I have always been a person who loved writing simply.

Simple and welcoming, I would say.

The first time I wanted to publish the book, I told my friend that, “I want my readers to hold my book in one hand and hot chocolate in the other, not a dictionary.”

And that sounded just fine… and QuIrKy too!

I love expressing every sentence which would come to my mind while writing.

I didn’t want writing to feel like a one-way thing. I always wanted the reader to have a conversation, contradict, negotiate, and put their own opinions.

Some amazing books later, I felt the need to include advanced words.

“Ingenious, abhor, amiable, appease, brazen, callous, candour, circumspect, demure, deride, elated!” And so much more!

I thought this is the time to give some promotion to my writing style.

I started adding them, and Poof! I can’t see myself anymore.

It’s almost like the thing which never felt like work. I made it a burden.

It may sound weird, but I never tried to make something I love more complex, and especially in writing, the easier I go on myself, the better the outcome.

Adding the words made me feel maybe I am doing something right for a long time, and the gift of procrastination I got with it was just amazing.

I was not ready to even write because I wasn’t ready to go through thousands of words and wasn’t ready to show my work.

Slowly I felt… I don’t want to write this weekend. I feel tired of it.

It was scary for me because from 5th standard I was never tired of writing…

Gave me a weekend and got an amazing book by Darius Foroux. “Do It Today.”

I was slacking a bit too much. I need to get a grip on my habits.

Reading this book made me realise the importance of “resistance-free writing.”

I never stopped to google anything.

His writing is like butter. You can’t stop reading. I finished the book in 2 days.

I did get some fantastic tips from it and good ideas.

And annotated a heck lot.

I will write some lines from the book to give you an example of his writing-

Page no — 58-

“If you’re a slacker, you don’t care about much. Good enough is your motto. And you have no ambition at all. An attitude like that doesn’t bring you anywhere. The American novelist Cormac McCarthy put I the best.

-It’s like a lot of things said the smith. Do the least part of it wrong and ye’d just as well to do it all wrong.”

The way he writes, you can almost hear his voice throughout the book, even when you have never heard how Darius speaks.

There wasn’t a single word which felt difficult to read.

It felt the most impactful book of all time to me because it was the easiest to go through.

And I was doing the opposite of this.

I read 8 books this month and this had the best impact on me.

And as Robert Greene (my favourite author of all time) said.

Don’t be afraid of people rejecting you. Stick to your guns if your motivation is always cramped. “Oh, I want to fit in, they might not like me, this book might be too different, my podcast might not be like other people.”

That fear just withers the soul, and makes what you create just like everything else out there, but when you think, “No, I am gonna be myself, I am gonna mind what’s different about me, I am gonna be bold, I am gonna be confident.” Those who are trying to follow all the trends, they might sell a book, might make a movie, but they don’t have an impact.”

So with that, I would like to say, it’s okay if you’re not using the most advanced words, and don’t have the most polished grammar.

You’re a writer and that doesn’t have to mean you’re a literary expert. Some typos here and there wouldn’t hurt anyone, and that doesn’t mean you don’t take authority over your work and mistakes.

You are all allowed to work the way you want to and express yourself the way you like.

If you want it to be two sentences instead of one because you have something more to say, just say it. If it’s valuable to people, they would read a whole paragraph too!

Take care! and show your work!

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Sneha (Snee) Mishra.

I am a creative writer for SaaS and B2B. So I can spice up brand and founder's stories.